People are always talking about it being their duty to find their way to their fellow men – to their neighbour, as they are forever saying with all the baseness of false sentiment – when in fact it is purely and simply a question of finding their way to themselves. Let each first find his way to himself! And since hardly anyone has yet found his way to himself, it is inconceivable that any of these unfortunate millions has ever found his way to another human being – or to his neighbour, as they say, dripping with self-deception. Thomas Bernhard
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Looking out for other people is not a bad thing. It is a good thing. The problem is that we do not think about ourselves enough, and we forget how to take care of ourselves. Looking out for others is all well and good, but it is your duty to look out for yourself as well.

You cannot do everything for others, you must also figure out what you need to do for yourself to be happy. It may be difficult at first, but you will learn how to take care of yourself when you are constantly sacrificing your needs in order to meet the needs of everyone else around you.

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